Lie #6 Boys and Girls are the Same
DENYING our DESIGN
We are told to love the Lord our God with all of our heart, soul, mind, and strength (Mark 12:30). God designed us to love Him emotionally, spiritually, logically, and physically. We are most fulfilled when we follow God’s design in these four aspects.
- God designed two genders: male and female.
- God designed both genders to complement each other.
- God designed both genders to build healthy bonds.
- God designed our identity to be in Christ.
Personal and Group Study
1. Why is it important to understand the wide spectrum of personalities within both genders? Have you ever made a quick judgment about someone based upon mannerisms?
2. Study your identity in Christ: Special possession (1 Peter 2:9); treasured (Deut. 7:6); irreplaceable (1 Th. 1:4); loved beyond compare (Romans 8:35-39); worth dying for (1 John 3:16); forgiven (Eph. 1:7); child (1 John 3:1); secured for eternity (2 Cor. 1:22); set free (Rom. 6:18); set apart (John 15:16). Why is your identity found in Christ and not your gender or race?
3. What are the main biblical differences between men and women and how do they compliment each other: love and respect (Eph. 5:25); protection and security (1 Peter 3:7)?
4. Discuss this: “Same sex attraction is not so much a sexual problem as much as a relational problem.”
Applying the Bible
5. If you know someone who is questioning their gender, will you commit to loving them like Christ as they wrestle with their emotions? Will you help them understand their true design?
6. Same-gender bonding is vital for children. Lead your child into creating healthy bonds with you (parent), a mentor (coach, teacher, etc.), and peers (friends) so that they can develop meaningful, God-honoring relationships with the opposite sex.
7. If you are struggling with gender identity, will you talk with a trusted person (pastor, counselor) who can help you discover the root of your feelings and heal from your past?